How to Ask Your Partner for Couple's Therapy
How to Ask Your Partner for Couple's Therapy
Great relationships don’t just fall into our laps.
“Behind every great relationship are difficult and uncomfortable conversations we rarely get to see. Great relationships don’t just fall into our laps. They require people to move through their fears and insecurities and do the hard work to move wounds into healing.”
— Vienna Pharaon, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
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There’s nothing wrong with asking your partner for therapy.
Many, many couples have found more solid footing through therapy-taught tactics.
Still, some can resist therapy because they feel embarrassed or like they don’t need it.
Everyone can benefit from therapy because at the heart of it, therapy is a safe environment to express the feelings and thoughts that scare, hurt, worry, and bother you the most. Sometimes the best way to work through those complicated things is with a therapist’s support.
If you could get them to try at least a couple of sessions with you without committing to a whole plan of treatment, that would be a win too. Let them see for themselves the benefits of therapy.
Make it about the two of you and not just you.
Talking Points
Hi babe, I’d like for us to get more connected. I have been feeling a lot of tension between us lately and I’d love to resolve that so we can enjoy harmony again.
It would mean a lot to me if you would go to a couple’s therapy session with me. I know it’s not something you’ve been excited about trying, but I think there could be some value in talking this out with a trained professional and neutral third-party.
Would you be willing to try at least two months of this with me?
I believe that therapy can give us some better fighting skills and can help us better communicate to one another.
Thank you for being open with me and for your willingness to work on our relationship.
This relationship means so much to me that it’s worth it to push through the discomfort of therapy to find more harmony between us.
I believe we both want a stronger, happier relationship, and I see therapy as a way to help us achieve that together.
Having a neutral space where we can both express our feelings and thoughts without judgment can help us understand each other better.
I see this as an opportunity for both of us to grow individually and as a couple. Therapy can give us tools to handle conflicts and improve our communication.
A trained therapist can offer insights and strategies that we might not think of on our own, helping us navigate our challenges more effectively.
I’m committed to our relationship and willing to do whatever it takes to make it work. Your willingness to join me in therapy would mean a lot.
Even though things might not seem severe now, addressing issues early can prevent bigger problems in the future.
I miss the emotional closeness we used to have. I believe therapy can help us reconnect on a deeper level.
Going to therapy together is a way for us to spend quality time focused on our relationship, which is important to me.
By going to therapy, we're setting a positive example for others who might be struggling with their own relationships.
I see this as an investment in our future together. The effort we put in now will pay off in the long run.
We can use therapy to address specific issues that have been causing tension between us, finding solutions that work for both of us.
Therapy can help us rebuild any lost trust and strengthen the foundation of our relationship.
Further Reading
Couples Counselling: How to Ask Your Partner to Go to Therapy | One Life Counselling & Coaching